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...but that is not the end of the story.
From that experience I decided to begin looking for my biological mother, though with no luck because I had a closed adoption. It felt like my dream would never come true. On May 6, 2009 I decided to do a simple white pages search in the phone book. All I had was her maiden last name. I knew she was born in Delaware and so I hoped she still might have some relatives in the state. There are approximately 63 listings in the phone book with her last name. I picked up the phone and dialed the first number. An elderly man answered and I asked him if Donna was there. He said “No.” So then I asked him if he might be related to a Donna Smith, and he replied, “Yes I am… that is my daughter.” My heart began to race and I got chills all over my body. I told him that she might be my birth mother. He was quiet for a few moments. He then informed me that yes, his daughter did place a baby for adoption a number of years ago. By this time I was crying. I had miraculously found her, and I ended up calling my grandparents’ house, the place where she grew up. It was only one hour away from where I lived. When my grandmother got home, she called me back and said that she just got off the phone with my biological mom, and she wanted to meet me. That she had been praying for this for a really long time. She told me that every year on my birthday she would think about me.
As an adopted child, it is natural to wonder where you come from. Just knowing is a natural thing to want. I never thought that in a million years this day would come for me because the chances are very slim to almost impossible to find biological families when you have closed records. There are millions of agencies and private investigators that would have helped me, but they wanted a lot of money that I, as a college student, did not have. So through dedication and determination, I met my biological mother on May 8, 2009, and she said it was the best Mother’s Day present she has ever received. She told me that placing me was the hardest thing she has ever done. I was able to relate to her. Even though it was the hardest choice, many people’s lives were blessed because of it. Now we are forming a bond of friendship that can never be broken. There were a lot of answered prayers that day. The void in my heart is now full because of her. There is no more wondering. I am so thankful for the gift of adoption, and I want the world to know just how bittersweet adoption can be. My life has truly been blessed by adoption. I want to thank my biological mom for doing the right thing for me, even though it was the hardest thing for her.
I have been sealed for time and eternity to an incredible man for three years now. We have two beautiful, intelligent, funny 27-month old twin girls and a baby due in July. They have blessed my life tremendously. There is no higher calling on earth than to be a mother, and I am so thankful the Lord has given me a second chance to be a mother again, under the right circumstances.
This story was written and submitted by the birthmother, and the photo is property of Jori Reid Photography. Names have been changed to respect the privacy of those involved.