Just for Birth Moms

Looking for some birth mother resources? Join BraveLove to be a part of a community of women who have placed a child for adoption. You'll find encouraging stories and information about post adoption support.

BraveLove loves connecting birth mothers because we see how important it is for a birth mom to not walk alone during her adoption journey.

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Support groups & retreats

This is a guaranteed way to meet other women who have placed a child for adoption. Check out this list of birth parent post-adoption support groups and retreats. We’ve vetted these, but encourage you to check them out too. Every person is different, which is why we’ve created this diverse list. We plan to expand this directory over time with more details and groups in order to provide plenty of resource options for birth parents nationwide.

If you know of a birth parent support group or retreat or online group not listed, email info@bravelove.org. We’d love to learn more about them.

Learn more about post-adoption support groups

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Community events

Check out our calendar of upcoming adoption events across the country. We do our best to update our event calendar, but we can't catch it all. Keep your eyes and ears open for local adoption events in your area. If you find out about any events that are not listed here, let us know!

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BraveLove dinners

Every spring and fall, BraveLove hosts birth mom dinners in select cities across the country as a way for birth moms to connect locally. If you're interested in learning more about the dinners, click the button below. If you’re interested in potentially hosting a dinner in your area, contact events@bravelove.org. We'd love to consider you as a future host.

Learn more about birth mom dinners

Plan a meet-up

Pick a date and then plan something simple and informal like coffee, ice cream or even meeting at the park. Take a friend for safety reasons and so you don't have to be alone. Use social media to get the word out. Post something as simple as "Any Austin birth moms want to meet for coffee this Saturday? Message me for details."

We're happy to help you get the word out too! Just tell us when and where.

Tell us about your meet-up

Online

Obviously, this can be the most immediate way to connect with other birth moms. We've seen the internet be a really valuable place to connect. (But we're always a fan of the face-to-face too!) There are a number of different groups and discussion forums out there. Do you have a favorite you'd recommend? Let us know!

Tell us about your favorite online resources

Being a Birth Mom

Check out the latest commentaries from our Being a Birth Mom contributors.

Two of a Kind

JenniferFamilyshot-header.pngIn honor of Mother’s Day, here's a story told by one woman who has actually walked in the shoes of birth mothers and adoptive mothers.

When faced with the challenges of infertility, grief, loss and fear, she developed a deeper compassion, a greater hope, and a more open heart than she ever could have dreamed possible. Meet Jennifer.

My story, just like so many others, is hard to put into words. Hard to put on paper all of the moments, thoughts, hurts, fears and celebrations that have brought me to the spot I stand in today.

My heart was pounding as we pulled into the agency to meet her. A beautiful young woman who had chosen us to parent her child. She was due any day. A boy would be born and I would bring him home. I would be his mommy! My heart was overwhelmed with that thought. I was in love with him already, but was overwhelmed with fear that she would change her mind. What if she was like the last birth mother? What if she changed her mind? What if I prepared my heart and home again, only to have her choose to parent? But I was also overwhelmed with grief. Grief for this beautiful soul who would soon have to do the most painful thing imaginable- to hand over her child to another woman. I think all adoptive mothers hurt for their birth moms, but it's different for me. I don't just hurt for her, I grieve with her. I understand and feel her pain in a way that few can.

Twice Blessed

Proud to be adopted, and prouder still to be a Birth Mother.

Another Mother’s day approaches. An overwhelming deep sadness rolls over and thru me. Sadness that has changed me and as the years go by, this sadness is turning, however slowly, into resolved contentment.

I am an adoptee.

I have been given the gift of unconditional love by my Birth Mother. She was faced with the hardest decision of her life. Newly divorced, rearing 3 children on her own and pregnant with me.

Placing Truman

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Most people generally know me as a hard-working, single mother with one son. Most people don't know I have two.

I was being a parent in making the decision I wasn't able to care for my youngest the way I do for my oldest. I was so torn when I found out I was pregnant; I was already 6 months along.

I knew I would not be able to provide for my unborn like I am able to for my youngest and that's why I chose adoption.

When the agency gave me books of families to look through, I was immediately drawn to them. When I saw Heidi's pictures I knew right away she and Andy were perfect. I said, “this is it” right away. They advised me to take a few days; however, I looked at the book about a thousand times and my son kept playing with their book. There was no doubt in my mind and my heart — they were it.

Lesli: Before We Met

A letter leads a birth mother and daughter to their reunion after 40 years.  Meet Lesli, who is a birth mother and is getting ready to meet her daughter Shannon for the first time today since giving birth nearly 40 years ago. We invite you to enter in to their reunion story, before they meet...

When I was a senior in high school, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and then placed her to be adopted by parents who were far more ready and able to care for her than I was. But that doesn’t mean I haven’t always loved her, had hopes for her and a hope for myself, that one day, I would have the opportunity to know her.

Roanne | A Birth Mom from New York

Roanne.jpegOne word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?

Scared

Why did you choose adoption?

I wanted to give my child the best life possible. He deserved more than I could offer at that time of my life. He deserved two loving parents who loved him. He deserved everything in the world.

What and who played the biggest role in your decision to place your child for adoption?

My mom played the biggest role in my decision to place my child. When I told her I was pregnant she told me she would support my decision. But my parents were not going to help me raise a child if I chose to raise him.

What did you think about adoption before you placed? And after you placed?

I only knew a little about adoption. I placed 17 years ago. At the time open adoption was pretty unheard of. I told my mom that I needed to know my child. I couldn’t wonder every time a little boy walked by me if he was my birth child. My mom told me about open adoption and I knew in my heart that was what I wanted for my child. I now know how beautiful open adoption can be. I have been blessed with an amazing open adoption. My birth son has grown to become one of my closest and dearest friends. His family is my family. We are family always and forever.

 

Makena | A Birth Mom From Idaho

Makena.jpgOne word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?

Afraid

Why did you choose adoption?

I wanted to give my birth son the best life and family I would want him to have.

What and who played the biggest role in your decision to place your child for adoption?

God, Family, Birth Father, and my life situation.

What did you think about adoption before you placed? And after you placed?

I have always loved adoption, my cousins are adopted. I still love it to this day, now I help other expectant teens and adoptive couples through their journey.

The Creating Family Series - Part 3

Jennifer_daughter.pngTaken from an article written by an adoptive mom, Helen Harris, these four heartfelt narratives will captivate and challenge your perspective as they clarify how individual experience and relationships change over time. The authors include one adoptee, her birth mom, an adoptive mom, and her sister. The relationships challenge the adoption stereotypes of good and bad, address the myths that surround reunion, and propose possibilities for children through adoption that values birth families.

I’ve told this story before. To friends. To strangers. To anyone who ever asked how many children I have – I always count Beth. I appreciate the chance to share it with you now.

 

Born with a Purpose

Morgan024.jpgMy passion is to reach teenagers and women that view themselves as worthless, disposable, and damaged beyond repair, who are in a cycle of self-destruction, and continue to make bad choices because of the hurt and pain that they feel from their past. I know this feeling.

When I was a little girl I was sexually abused by a family member for several years, and then raped by a man close to our family at age 15. I had no self-worth. I was damaged beyond repair. I didn't know what innocence was or how to preserve it. And whether it’s a choice you made or a choice made for you, having that purity and innocence taken from you causes you to feel like it’s something that you can’t get back. Being reckless with my choices because I was hurt and was searching for something that I couldn't find in this world. But when you’re stuck in that cycle you can’t see that.

Terri's Story

yaoqi-lai-19621.jpgI knew from the moment I made my decision to place my child for adoption that it would have to be an open arrangement because I would want to be involved in my child’s life.

I was told by the agency that I could choose between semi-open or closed adoption. I chose semi-open. If you're getting ready to place your child for adoption and have chosen the semi-open arrangement, there are some things I'd like to share about my experience:

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