One word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?
Shocked really. I was in denial until I got a positive test, and I just couldn’t believe it was true.
What led you to choose adoption?
I felt like I had no other choice; I didn’t want to be homeless with a baby. I felt he deserved better than what I could do.
What and who played the biggest role in your decision to place your child for adoption?
My mother - she’s the one who suggested it.
What surprised you most about the adoption process?
How hard it was and how much I would bond with my baby before I even met him.
What did you think about adoption before you placed? And after you placed?
I thought only teenagers did adoption because they didn’t want their babies. After I placed I realized how much birth moms love their kids, and adoption isn’t an easy choice.
Looking back, what do you wish you had known then that you know today?
That it would all be ok, even though I felt like my world was crashing down at the time.
When, if ever, have you felt most discouraged about your decision to place?
When I was in the hospital holding him. I didn’t want to lose him.
How would you describe your relationship with your child today?
He’s still young, but he thinks about me even if I’m not around which is very sweet. I’m excited to see who he grows to be one day.
If you could dispel any myths about adoption or birth mothers – what would you say?
Not all adopted children were unwanted or unloved by their birth families.
What’s been the greatest reward or surprise of being a birth mother?
I did surprise myself by being stronger than I thought, even on the days I struggle with my grief I still make it through.
What’s your greatest wish for birth parents today?
That they have a relationship with their children they placed. I think every parent should get that opportunity.
What excites you about BraveLove?
That BraveLove is trying to get more people aware of birth moms and who they are.