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To the woman who gave birth to me,

Thank you for giving me a second chance at life. Thank you for being strong and giving me life. I gave joy to my adoptive parents who couldn't have a child, you made their dreams come true. Because of you, my adoptive mother got her dreams and you got a second chance. I write this as a daughter to two mother's whom I both have a special bond with strength of two powerful woman. My message to those looking to give up your child, I am a success story, as hard as it is to give up that small innocent baby or child, just know that bond will never be gone. My genes and blood live on with one, love and opportunities live with my other. Just remember we are all energy and I will one day be reunited in spirit to that brave woman who loved me enough to spare me her pain and gave me a chance. I love you both, my two moms. I hope I can meet her one day in person But I thank her from the bottom of my heart.

Alison

The Courage Behind Telling Your Story

“Courage (from Latin: coeur): to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.” Brene Brown is a professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work and does research on human connection. She shared that definition of courage during her TED talk "The Power of Vulnerability." 

Relive the night - A Brave New City

What a night! Last Thursday, October 15th, we celebrated "A Brave New City" with over 200 new and old friends in Dallas, Texas. Watch this short video to get a glimpse of what the night entailed. A big thanks to all those who attended plus our amazing event sponsors, special guests, volunteers, and honorary speaker. We couldn't have done it without each of you.

New! Adoption Resource Kits for professionals

Feels good to finish something, right? Well, we've just finished production on our BraveLove Adoption Resource Kit. We recognize that the conversation surrounding adoption can often be difficult to navigate, which is why we have been working hard to produce resources for professionals who are serving those in unplanned pregnancies. Why? To help them navigate the conversation surrounding adoption with a bit more ease. Plus we want more people to be exposed to the idea that adoption is a brave choice and also general information about adoption today.

In case you're curious, here is what's inside the kit...

BraveLove Giving Day: We've Met Our Match

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 Mark your calendar. Set the alarm. Save the date for Thursday, September 17th. BraveLove Giving Day is a one-day online fundraising event in which we're asking you to support the work of BraveLove.

In addition, we're asking for your help to tell others to get behind our pro-adoption cause This is a great opportunity for you to get creative and invite others in. Ask your friends, family and co-workers to give to BraveLove! The cool thing is you can be involved with Giving Day from anywhere and all within the comfort of your home, office, etc.

And the best part is...

To My Son,

When I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend and I considered marriage, raising the child together, but through the support and counsel of family and friends, came to the conclusion we should not get married just because I had gotten pregnant.  Such a sacred, covenantal relationship should be Plan A, not Plan B. With marriage out of the picture, my boyfriend and I really had to search our hearts for what we thought was going to be best for our son. I wanted to raise my son. Of course, I wanted to raise my son. To see him take his first steps, learn his first words, watch him grow into the man the Lord created him to be. I didn’t really care about the personal sacrifice it would take to be a single mom. I was willing to make it - a hundred times over. But the truth is that I also wanted something else.

BraveLove: an Agent of Change

BraveLove is a pro-adoption movement dedicated to changing the perception of adoption by acknowledging birth moms for their brave choice. Regardless of religious or political affiliation, BraveLove welcomes the support of anyone who acknowledges adoption as courageous.

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Mad Men: a look back at the final season (and its hint at adoption)

A look back at the final season of Mad Men and its hint at adoptionFor all you Mad Men fans out there, last night’s series finale marked the end of an era, according to AMC. (For you non-Mad Men viewers, keep reading this…)

Set in New York, the iconic, provocative, award-winning AMC drama follows the lives of the ruthlessly competitive men and women of Madison Avenue advertising. The show exposes and stereotypes the 1960s-70s man who works all day and drinks all night, while his housewife looks the other way and has dinner set by 6. Even the name of the show and its opening credits lend itself to this sexist era. Though during last night’s final episode, we wondered if the oh-so-dapper Don Draper was going to survive this time as he performed another one of his disappearing acts - running away from life and all that comes with it. The final credits began to roll, and we were left with the typical finale questions and comments, “alright… well what does that mean? What do you think happened?” 

Dear Ezra James,

This is the hardest letter I have ever written.

If you are reading this you are probably in your teens, asking yourself a bunch of questions, the main question being why? No it was not because I didn’t love you enough, no it was not because I didn’t want to keep you. The one reason I chose adoption is because I knew it would give you the best life possible, one I could not provide for you at the time.

BraveLove meets Neighbor’s Table for a Birth Mother’s Day dinner

BraveLove is excited to announce an extra special Birth Mother’s Day dinner with our friends at Neighbor’s Table - a love mission of ordinary people loving extraordinarily around the table. We believe birth moms are extraordinary people, which is why Neighbor’s Table is the perfect place to gather with the women we champion. Watch the video below to see what it’s like being around the table. Then scroll down for a few more details about the dinner.

Birth Mom Dinner at Eno’s Pizza Tavern


BraveLove Birth Mother Dinner in Dallas, TX

On Thursday, March 19, we hosted a dinner for birth moms at Eno’s Pizza Tavern in Dallas, Texas. Women drove from Dallas, Ft. Worth and even as far as Houston! Around the table, there were mostly new faces and a few familiar ones.

We do these from time to time as a simple way to honor birth moms and allow them to connect with one another. Why? So birth moms know that they’re not alone. These dinners allow some face time with the women we champion. But most of all, the purpose of the dinners is social - eat good food and connect birth moms to one another. 

Dallas Birth Mother Dinners are back in 2015!

We are excited to announce this year’s BraveLove Birth Mother Dinners! We love these dinners because it’s a way to gather a group of women with one strong commonality – placing a child for adoption. Our hope for these dinners is to create an environment for the birth mother community to meet, connect and encourage one another.

We want to celebrate the courageous act of placing for adoption through the simplicity of sharing a meal together.

Two birth mothers talk about grief, aftercare and simple ways to support one another

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Recently the National Council for Adoption hosted a webinar called "What We Want Adoption Professionals to Know" and invited two birth mothers, Jan and Heather, to participate on the panel. We had to listen in to what our friends were saying! The women shared their personal adoption stories and then specifically discussed the role of a birth mother and the reality of a birth mother’s grief. 

My Dearest Joey,

I have written to you once before. It was the day your adoptive family came to take you home. I was 15 at the time, and lost in my feelings.

I knew as soon as I handed the envelope over my mess of emotion would be read as immature and unwelcome. I am happy to be getting this second chance.

To the sweetest, strongest woman I know,

It’s been almost over 18 years since our worlds collided. Pain, struggles and difficult decisions surrounded our new found relationship back then. You had been through so much but continued to give without reservation. You took on my pain and hurt as your own and tenderly loved and walked me through our adoption. For that I will be eternally grateful.

To all my Birthmother Sisters,

Over the last 19 years, my adoption journey has taken me on some seriously intense emotional ups and downs. If given the opportunity to go back and do it all again, I can think of a lot that I might change, but I realize that each and every experience taught me something unique. Without those experiences, I may not be where I am at today. Our life journeys allow us to grow as individuals; and when adoption becomes part of our journey we gain a perspective into life that few others will ever truly understand.

Dear Birth Mom,

We haven’t yet met, but I pray for you and your little one every day. I hope you feel an overwhelming peacefulness as you travel down this path. This Valentine’s Day, I am sending you love. Know that you are not alone—I am thinking of you. You are a kind, self-sacrificing, courageous woman. You are a blessing to your little one and to me. I am grateful for you. I hope you have a wonderful day.

Relive BraveLove’s Dream A Little Dream Party

This time last month, we hosted a fundraising party to shine a positive light on adoption in Dallas and beyond. Nearly 300 guests from across the metroplex joined us for a night of festivities to celebrate November’s National Adoption Month at 3015 at Trinity Groves. The Dream a Little Dream Party included food by 3015’s Chef Sharon Van Meter, drinks by Western Son Vodka, live music by Jon Christopher Davis, a photo booth, and our first annual Wall of Lights. 

We’re just a week away!

We can hardly believe that the BraveLove Dream a Little Dream Party is less than a week away! We have been planning for this special evening for quite some time, and the closer we get, the more excited we are about gathering together to shine a positive light on adoption in honor of National Adoption Month!

Dear BraveLove,

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to work with a birth-mom throughout her labor, subsequent C-section and the two days she spent in the hospital with her sweet baby girl.  This mother was 19; this was her third child.  Her first child had been taken away by CPS.  She was parenting her second child and had just returned from a recovery facility in order to “be a better mother”.  She made an adoption plan for this (3rd) child because she “knew this was the best thing”.  She continually sited that she wanted to do what was right for her unborn child and the child she was currently parenting.  Rarely did she mention her own needs and/or desires.  As we sat in the OR while she had a C-section (I was in there because her family never showed up), I just kept thinking…this is brave. 

Today’s our birthday!

Happy birthday to BraveLove

We launched two years ago today. For those reading this, thank you! Thank you for caring about this movement and helping us show that adoption can be a beautiful thing and that birth moms are heroes.