Interviews with birth parents, adoptive parents & adoptees

Maureen | A Birth Mom from Texas

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Shocked really. I was in denial until I got a positive test, and I just couldn’t believe it was true.

What led you to choose adoption?

I felt like I had no other choice; I didn’t want to be homeless with a baby. I felt he deserved better than what I could do.

What and who played the biggest role in your decision to place your child for adoption?

My mother - she’s the one who suggested it.

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A Father's Day Interview with Zach


What is your name and how long ago did you place for adoption?

My name Is Zach. In August it'll be six years since I placed for my daughter adoption. It seems like just the other day I was holding her in my arms!

Do you have an open or closed adoption?

I have been fortunate enough to have an open adoption, and I thank God for it every day. I couldn't imagine living life knowing that I had a daughter that I couldn't or didn't have contact with.

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Paige | An adoptee from Ohio

"You were ahead of your time and I’ve never held anger toward you." - Paige

Paige, an adoptee's perspective


When did you learn you were adopted?

I have always known. My parents never hid that info from me. I’m very glad I never had to experience an “Ah-ha” or an “Oh no!” moment. I feel bad for any adoptee who found out this truth unexpectedly.

Do you recall how your parents explained why you were adopted?

I believe they told me what the welfare agency told them. It was not the full truth, but my parents never lied on purpose. In stages, as was age appropriate, they told me that my birth mother married my birth father but she was too young, and her grandmother broke up their marriage. They’d had a baby (me), and since the marriage ended, I could not stay with either of my birth parents. My birth mother was only 17.

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Zachary | A birth father from Georgia

Untitled_design_(2).pngOne word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered your partner was having a baby?

When I found out my college girlfriend was pregnant the first thing I did was throw up, and about passed out. At the time I blamed it on the snow and ice on the ground, but once the shock wore off I was excited.

What led you to choose adoption?

Initially, we had talked about it because we weren’t together, neither of us were ready to be parents, and we didn’t want to raise our daughter in a split home, but after thinking about it I quickly changed my mind, and decided that it would be better to co-parent.

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Jane | An Adoptee from Virginia

Jane.pngWhen did you learn you were adopted?

My parents told me from the time I was very young. I don’t ever remember not knowing, just growing in my understanding of what it meant.

Do you recall how your parent(s) explained why you were adopted?

They told me they really wanted me, that they chose me, they joked that that they were “stuck” with my brother (their biological child), but they picked me special, as well as my other brother who was also adopted (not my biological brother). When I learned about the birds and the bees, I began to understand more that another person was my “birth-mother.” I have prayed for her over the years, and that she would be reassured that I am alive and well.

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Shawn & Cheryl | Adoptive Parents from Tennessee

38210018.JPGHow did you and your husband come to the decision to adopt?

Both Shawn and I knew that we wanted to grow our family thru adoption. It was something that we quickly connected on. We also knew that we wanted to have a little girl someday and her name would be Olivia. Somehow we’ve always been pretty much in sync when it comes to the important things. We feel so blessed that God had that same plan for us and for our family.

How did you feel when you first met your child's birth mom?

Wow!  Meeting Ali was one of the most exciting and nerve-racking days of our lives. Mad thoughts and nervous energy were top contender emotions! We received “the call” from our caseworker Deasree on January 16th, 2013 with the amazing news that a birth mom named Ali wanted to meet us! It was such an adrenaline rush. Both Shawn and I were at work when Deasree got a hold of us. Needless to say, we couldn’t concentrate the remainder of that day. We were slated to meet Ali the following Monday, January 21st, 2013. Her sister Claire would be with her during our meeting. Even more nerve-racking. Would they both like us?

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Sara | An Adoptive Mom from Texas

image_(9).jpegAs a child did you ever dream that you would one day adopt?

As I child I would have never dreamed I would adopt, but after several years of marriage it became very apparent that God had built us for just that. Jason, my husband, had two cousins who were adopted, and was even adopted himself by his dad. He grew up around family that believed blood had nothing to do with being family. Six years into our marriage, we spent a year and a half taking care of my cousin's two girls. When they were reunited with their parents, and we were without children again, we knew it didn't matter how we became parents. However it took a fertility specialist telling us there were no foreseen options for us to get pregnant before we finally started our adoption journey.

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Ana | A Birth Mom from Texas

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One word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?

Terrified

Why did you choose adoption?

The second I found out I was pregnant, I knew I couldn’t raise him or her the way I wanted to. The baby and I both deserved better.

What and who played the biggest role in your decision to place your child for adoption?

Finances and my mother. I knew I couldn’t provide everything a baby needs, much less day care. And I refused to accept handouts from my parents. I wanted to be able to support my child.

Pictured above: Ana and her father on placement day with her son.

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Ashley | A Birth Mom from Texas

Ashley.jpegOne word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?

I felt completely numb, I was most likely going through shock. I found out I was pregnant when I was fifteen at my sophomore year homecoming dance. My best friend held my hand while we read the test. I remember going home and talking to my mom, lying to her about how fun the dance was. After she went to go to sleep, I laid down on the couch for an hour or two and thought to myself. It took me around two weeks to fully process I was pregnant before I was able to tell my parents. After that point, I really realized how terrified and alone I was.

Why did you choose on adoption? What and who played the biggest role in your decisions to place your child for adoption?

I wanted a better life for my child. My father has a big role in that. He and one of his brothers were adopted, and had a wonderful childhood and family life because of that. I wanted my child to have a mother and father who could fully provide financial and emotional support. As my child would have lacked both, I made the choice as a mother to give my child the life they deserved.

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Melanie | An Adoptee from Texas

Melanie.jpegWhen did you learn you were adopted?

I don’t remember a certain moment in my life when I found out, it seems like I have always known.

Do you recall how your parent(s) explained why you were adopted?

I don't recall how my parents told me I was adopted. When I asked my mom she read she the book, The Family That Grew, to me every night. And that makes sense to me and how I just always knew I was adopted, it was just a simple part of my everyday.

Was your adoption open, semi-open, or closed?

Closed

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