Just for Birth Moms

Looking for some birth mother resources? Join BraveLove to be a part of a community of women who have placed a child for adoption. You'll find encouraging stories and information about post adoption support.

BraveLove loves connecting birth mothers because we see how important it is for a birth mom to not walk alone during her adoption journey.

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Support groups & retreats

This is a guaranteed way to meet other women who have placed a child for adoption. Check out this list of birth parent post-adoption support groups and retreats. We’ve vetted these, but encourage you to check them out too. Every person is different, which is why we’ve created this diverse list. We plan to expand this directory over time with more details and groups in order to provide plenty of resource options for birth parents nationwide.

If you know of a birth parent support group or retreat or online group not listed, email info@bravelove.org. We’d love to learn more about them.

Learn more about post-adoption support groups

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Community events

Check out our calendar of upcoming adoption events across the country. We do our best to update our event calendar, but we can't catch it all. Keep your eyes and ears open for local adoption events in your area. If you find out about any events that are not listed here, let us know!

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BraveLove dinners

Every spring and fall, BraveLove hosts birth mom dinners in select cities across the country as a way for birth moms to connect locally. If you're interested in learning more about the dinners, click the button below. If you’re interested in potentially hosting a dinner in your area, contact events@bravelove.org. We'd love to consider you as a future host.

Learn more about birth mom dinners

Plan a meet-up

Pick a date and then plan something simple and informal like coffee, ice cream or even meeting at the park. Take a friend for safety reasons and so you don't have to be alone. Use social media to get the word out. Post something as simple as "Any Austin birth moms want to meet for coffee this Saturday? Message me for details."

We're happy to help you get the word out too! Just tell us when and where.

Tell us about your meet-up

Online

Obviously, this can be the most immediate way to connect with other birth moms. We've seen the internet be a really valuable place to connect. (But we're always a fan of the face-to-face too!) There are a number of different groups and discussion forums out there. Do you have a favorite you'd recommend? Let us know!

Tell us about your favorite online resources

Being a Birth Mom

Check out the latest commentaries from our Being a Birth Mom contributors.

Born with a Purpose

Morgan024.jpgMy passion is to reach teenagers and women that view themselves as worthless, disposable, and damaged beyond repair, who are in a cycle of self-destruction, and continue to make bad choices because of the hurt and pain that they feel from their past. I know this feeling.

When I was a little girl I was sexually abused by a family member for several years, and then raped by a man close to our family at age 15. I had no self-worth. I was damaged beyond repair. I didn't know what innocence was or how to preserve it. And whether it’s a choice you made or a choice made for you, having that purity and innocence taken from you causes you to feel like it’s something that you can’t get back. Being reckless with my choices because I was hurt and was searching for something that I couldn't find in this world. But when you’re stuck in that cycle you can’t see that.

Terri's Story

yaoqi-lai-19621.jpgI knew from the moment I made my decision to place my child for adoption that it would have to be an open arrangement because I would want to be involved in my child’s life.

I was told by the agency that I could choose between semi-open or closed adoption. I chose semi-open. If you're getting ready to place your child for adoption and have chosen the semi-open arrangement, there are some things I'd like to share about my experience:

Miranda | A Birth Mom from Texas

Miranda.pngOne word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?

Terrified

Why did you choose adoption?

I chose adoption because everything kept pointing to adoption. Before I found out I was pregnant people around me were talking about adopting, all the quotes I saw on Pinterest were about adoption. When I went to get proof of pregnancy, the center I was at talked to me about adoption and led me to a support group for single pregnant women. I learned there that one of the leaders was adopting and she shared her story with me. She also introduced me to the birth mother who shared her story with me. I truly believe God pointed me to adoption.

 

The Adoption Triad

Adoption TriadIn a recent conversation, an adoptive mother shared with us about her daughter’s reunion experience.  Her daughter and birth mother had been reunited after 18 years.  When asked the question by others, “Didn’t you feel threatened witnessing your daughter meeting her birth mother for the first time?”  Her response was an immediate “No, absolutely not.  Would you feel threatened if your daughter had a hole in her heart her entire life, and you found the one individual who could fill that hole?”

She Changed My Life

Shechangedmylife_Header.pngFall 2012 was the start of my junior year in college. I was succeeding in school, had a social life that included many groups of friends, and had no intentions of my actions catching up to me. To be honest, it just happened.

I was always the girl that played it safe and kept my distance. I never thought in a million years I could get pregnant. Especially since I was never the type to "sleep around." Well that does NOT matter. I became pregnant in September of 2012. I kept it from my parents until the end of November. Of course I could not find the right time to tell them because either way I was positive they were going to disown me…especially my dad.  I had done so well for years and gotten this far without ever disappointing them, my only thought was that they were going to be disgusted with me. I used the idea of adoption to calm them down, but thought for sure that I was going to parent for the first several months of my pregnancy.

Gerrianne | A Birth Mom from Texas

Gerrianne.jpgOne word to describe how you felt the moment you discovered you were pregnant?

Devastated

Why did you choose adoption?

I've always been pro-life, yet I was definitely put to the test when I found out I was pregnant. Adoption seemed to be the best option as I loved my baby and wanted him to have more than what I could provide. I was a single mother, with three small boys. I was living on public assistance, in low-income housing, with plans to begin college in the Winter Semester. I was also very angry at the baby's father, and mad at myself for the choices I had made. I wasn't a teenager, I was 29 years old and should have known better. The thought of raising another child with the feelings I had concerned me. I didn't know how I could emotionally handle another child.

Who played the biggest role in your decision to place your child for adoption?

A dear friend of mine called me and asked what my plans were. No one else had been so bold to ask. She started the wheels in motion. My friend was a professional in the child-welfare system, and she happened to have received a biography from her sister in Colorado, who was friends with the prospective adoptive couple, Mike and Lindsey. She said she didn't know why her sister sent her the biography, but it had been sitting on her desk for two weeks. She asked if I'd like to see the biography and the picture of them. I told her I would. While waiting for biography to come in the mail, I spoke to my pastor and he confirmed that adoption was the right decision.

A Birth Mother’s Heart

Last Tuesday, BraveLove joined a webinar called "A Birth Mother’s Heart," which was hosted by one of our wonderful partner agencies, Lifeline Children's Services. Two inspiring women, Katie and Deborah, shared their stories. Though from different circumstances, these women had one common thread weaving them together – they each placed a child for adoption. 

Janelle asks “What’s his label?”

Janelle asks what's his labelMeet Janelle. In 1993, she found herself facing the many burdens and decisions that accompany an unplanned pregnancy.  Feeling as if she needed extra support, she chose to move into the Liberty Godparent Home for the duration of her pregnancy.  It was there that she decided that adoption was the best option for her child and made the brave decision to pursue a placement plan while working with Family Life Services Adoption Agency.

Beautiful Connections

BeautifulConnections_header.pngI was recently asked if I could imagine my life differently—if adoption wasn’t a part of it. Just the thought seemed almost impossible!

If the Neimer’s weren’t a part of it? You see, the Neimer’s are my family. I’m 32 years old and they’ve been family for almost 15 years. Can you imagine your life without part of your family? Yeah, me neither.

We may have not become family in the most conventional way—whatever that means—but we are family. We are family because God hand-picked each of us to be a part of a child’s life. His plans began well before the summer of 1999, but that is when a sweet baby girl named Taylor was born and the joining of our families began.

I was 17 when I found out that I was pregnant. My first thought being, “wait a minute, this kind of thing does not happen to someone like me!” 

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