Just for Birth Moms

Looking for some birth mother resources? Join BraveLove to be a part of a community of women who have placed a child for adoption. You'll find encouraging stories and information about post adoption support.

BraveLove loves connecting birth mothers because we see how important it is for a birth mom to not walk alone during her adoption journey.

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Support groups & retreats

This is a guaranteed way to meet other women who have placed a child for adoption. Check out this list of birth parent post-adoption support groups and retreats. We’ve vetted these, but encourage you to check them out too. Every person is different, which is why we’ve created this diverse list. We plan to expand this directory over time with more details and groups in order to provide plenty of resource options for birth parents nationwide.

If you know of a birth parent support group or retreat or online group not listed, email info@bravelove.org. We’d love to learn more about them.

Learn more about post-adoption support groups

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Community events

Check out our calendar of upcoming adoption events across the country. We do our best to update our event calendar, but we can't catch it all. Keep your eyes and ears open for local adoption events in your area. If you find out about any events that are not listed here, let us know!

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BraveLove dinners

Every spring and fall, BraveLove hosts birth mom dinners in select cities across the country as a way for birth moms to connect locally. If you're interested in learning more about the dinners, click the button below. If you’re interested in potentially hosting a dinner in your area, contact events@bravelove.org. We'd love to consider you as a future host.

Learn more about birth mom dinners

Plan a meet-up

Pick a date and then plan something simple and informal like coffee, ice cream or even meeting at the park. Take a friend for safety reasons and so you don't have to be alone. Use social media to get the word out. Post something as simple as "Any Austin birth moms want to meet for coffee this Saturday? Message me for details."

We're happy to help you get the word out too! Just tell us when and where.

Tell us about your meet-up

Online

Obviously, this can be the most immediate way to connect with other birth moms. We've seen the internet be a really valuable place to connect. (But we're always a fan of the face-to-face too!) There are a number of different groups and discussion forums out there. Do you have a favorite you'd recommend? Let us know!

Tell us about your favorite online resources

Being a Birth Mom

Check out the latest commentaries from our Being a Birth Mom contributors.

Meet Allie

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Meet Allie! She's one of our newest contributors to the Being A Birth Mom column...

Hey there, I'm Allie!  I am a birth mother, wife, daughter, blogger, manager and dog mom. My favorite nickname I have is "Mama Allie" which was given to me by the most precious little boy I've ever laid eyes on. I placed my son 6 years ago as of December 2017. I am a manager and artist for a pottery studio in West Texas.

Why It's Important to Share Your Adoption Story — Stephanie's Journey

Stephanie2.jpgI was only 15 when I found out I was pregnant. My mom went to the doctor with me.  My mom & dad are both deceased now.  Unfortunately, I never asked how they felt, but I do remember my father crying when he heard the news.  It broke my heart since that was the first time I had seen him cry.  I think I was so young.

It didn’t really register until I started showing. I got pregnant in June after my freshman year of HS I began my sophomore year but left around Halloween (about 5 months pregnant).  Some friends deserted me, a few stayed my friend through it all.  

My Choice Wasn't Easy — Jess's Story

2.pngIt was something I will never forget, something hard to talk about, something I can barely find words for. In just 3 days I said my hello and goodbye to my beautiful, sweet newborn baby girl. How did I cope with the heartbreak and temptations to keeping her all to myself? Maybe it was watching my other two beautiful babies struggle with one parent, maybe it was the pure joy in my absolutely amazing adoptive couple’s faces, maybe it was the support and love I received from my family and their family, or maybe it was looking into her beautiful face and knowing she deserved more than I could ever give her. 

Lori's Story and Why She Preferred an Open Adoption (versus Closed)

Lori1.jpgWhen I first found out I was pregnant, I felt terrified and alone, I felt as if I couldn’t trust anyone. At that time—1993—the only available resource to me, when I suspected pregnancy, was a phone book. After cracking the book open, I stumbled upon a crisis pregnancy hotline and called as soon as my boss left for dinner break. The news of my pregnancy didn’t reach my family until four months later when my clothing no longer had a proper fit. 

Oddly enough, my mother handed me the card of a counselor at an adoption agency and when I glanced at it, I discovered it was the same lady who heard my cries on the phone just a few months earlier.

Not a Day Goes By That I Don't Think About Her — Hannah's Story

Hannah3.jpgThere’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about her. Obviously if my situation had been better I would have kept her and parented her. But, I knew it was best for her to have the family that she has now. I was really enjoying high school and excited to start my junior year. I was running track and cross country. I was running faster times than I’d ever run before. 

Changed for the Better — Anya's Story

Anya5.pngI was first introduced to BraveLove when I attended their launch party in September of 2012. I was pregnant at the time. When I saw videos of different birth moms sharing their stories, it made me cry. I was so impacted by their stories. The courageous stories of birth mothers empowered me to consider adoption. From the moment I found out I was pregnant I was afraid. I didn't know the first step to take. I considered abortion.

A Typical 16-year-old with Focus and Dreams in Place — Carmen's Story

Untitled_design_(4).pngMy adoption story started in high school… I was a typical 16-year-old, with an academic focus and dreams in place. Until December 8th, 2001, when I found out I was pregnant. My first thought, was to keep this child I loved so much already, but how?

How was I going to take care of a baby when my Mom was still taking care of me?

With many prayers, bill calculations, and late-night conversations with my Mom, I decided on adoption. I loved the idea of adoption, it was my only option. 

I Will Remember That I Am Strong — Lydia's Story

Lydia_baby.jpegI wonder what she is doing right now. Is her sweet mama holding her, kissing her cheeks and telling her how much she is loved? Is her daddy blowing raspberries on her tummy and grinning at the sweet sound that comes from her perfect mouth. Is her big brother, laying on the floor beside her swing, telling her a story? Honestly, it doesn’t really matter what she’s doing. I know that she is loved, and that’s all that matters. 

My name is Lydia, and I placed my perfect little girl for adoption 2 days after she was born. The raw and painful memories of that day are still so very real for me. But, the absolute joy I got from looking at the faces of her parents radiating with pure love and adoration for that perfect baby girl was all I needed to reassure me that I was doing the absolute best and right thing for her. She had a family. One that had been waiting for her for far too long. 

In Labor on the Night of Senior Prom — Katie's Story

Untitled_design_(2).pngDo you remember the night of your Senior Prom? The dress, the makeup, the hair, your date….one of the most exciting nights of the year for a Senior in High School. I remember the night of my Senior Prom very vividly. It was the night that I, as a 17-year-old, went into labor. 

I was the good girl in school, I had good grades and never got into trouble. I met a boy, I fell in love and I made adult decisions before I should have. I started my Senior Year at 16 years old, and pregnant. I was so scared and confused. The only thing I knew for certain was that abortion wasn’t an option for me. 

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