"That’s the paradox that is adoption. On one side, it is beautiful and celebrated and the new baby is welcomed with open arms. On the other, there is a grief over the loss that extends to your entire family. " - Ashley, adoptive mom #BraveLove

My birth daughter turned six today. It feels like yesterday that I was reading that life-altering pregnancy test while crying on the bathroom floor. I remember feeling scared and alone, but what I remember most was having this overwhelming feeling of needing to get rid of my secret.

I want to encourage you today about the decision you have made. Having made this choice I know some of the feelings you may be experiencing. It is an exquisite pain.

This letter is intended to reach birth mothers who don’t quite understand their emotions yet of a new placement or even an old one.

"One of the strongest, most beautiful, and inspirational women I know."

"You are so loved and appreciated today and every day."

I want to spend five minutes to remind you how much I admire you. How much you matter to me. It takes a lot of bravery to be in “our shoes." If you’re having a hard day I’m here for you. I’m here for you because I get it. I know that the grieving can take a toll. Not just with your mind and soul yet your body as well.

"I want you to read this with an open heart and open mind. It may very well challenge you. My hope is that it will inspire and encourage you more. It is written from my heart to yours. "

I remember being where you're at. I remember the shock, guilt, confusion, anger and the surreal feeling of having no control. I've been the girl sitting on the bed crying looking over 8 positive pregnancy tests, thinking if you take one more maybe it won't be true. Because I've been there and I've felt those feelings, I want to say a few words to you.

"You gave me one of the greatest gifts this world has to offer– siblings."