I am so thankful for adoption and the healing it's brought. I'm a proud birth mom.
My birth mom story began when I was in high school. I had a long term boyfriend and we were having sex, and just didn't really pay attention to protection as we should. I think by that point I just didn't care about anything and I was struggling with depression, although I didn't recognize that at the time. I had faced a lot of trauma as a child and that impacted me very much by the time I was a teen, but I was trying to ignore it. Looking back, I have a lot of compassion for myself. I was doing the best I could back then.
They left me there, alone. They didn't comfort me, or scream at me, they just left me, which was very difficult.
I did receive hope, help, and love at the program I went to. I decided to place my child for adoption after considering my options, and knowing that an abortion was not right for me. The program arranged for medical care, counseling, and support groups. I got a job, and bonded with my host family.
I was very much alone in many senses, my high school friends were all going off to college, and I was preparing for my son's birth.
My son Nick, was born on December 21st. The adoptive parents came to visit at the hospital and I had some other family visitors too, my sister spent a lot of time with me. It was a very difficult time but I never doubted my decision for a second. I was glad I had support and love around me.
We did a dedication ceremony and it was an amazing time for all of us to cry together and celebrate the decision, and also grieve for the sadness.
I met my future husband Jason about a month after Nick was born. We eventually got married and had 4 kids of our own. Nick was never a secret. We told our kids about him from early on. That was so healthy for all of us. Jason has been an advocate and our kids never struggled with knowing there was another child out there.
When Nick grew up and became a college student, his adoptive mom told me that she thought he would welcome contact from me. I reached out, and Nick responded right away. We've had a relationship ever since. I see his family as often as possible,
I have had so much other support for the adoption through they years though and that has made all the difference.
I am so thankful for adoption and the healing it's brought.
The pain and grief were heavy at first, but I always knew I made the right choice for me, and the right choice for Nick. That's made all the difference. I'm a proud birth mom.It's so exciting to see birth moms starting to tell their stories and to support women who are choosing this option or considering it. I have never regretted my decision or second guessed it.
I've learned to own my decisions and lean in to those people who care about me and love me. I can ignore any criticism because my son is healthy, happy, and whole, and so am I.